Thus, having these popular songs and images “on the brain” is triggering many females to “feel” bisexual (it is indeed normal under these circumstances). Popular movies and songs now contain what used to be considered soft porn, with lots of girl-girl action.īrain science shows that most females possess an inherent bisexual arousal pattern. I trace this confusion to the mainstreaming of pornography. Regarding bisexuality, lots of straight girls are confused about this. Most gay people report the feeling as inborn or noticeable early in life, whereas your letter suggests the feeling is new. If, later in life, you are comfortable acting on those feelings, fine, but there is no need to act on feelings you aren’t comfortable with.ĭear Worried: You definitely don’t sound gay. My advice is to acknowledge that you find some girls attractive and leave it at that. Yet I have known straight (or gay) people who changed. Molly, 18, Fair Oaks: We are so preoccupied with labeling everyone’s sexual orientation today and treating them accordingly. You are gay if you feel inclined to act on that attraction. It is perfectly normal to feel attraction. Maureen, 18, Redding: Sexuality isn’t black and white, it is a spectrum. More people are realizing they are bisexual, rather than heterosexual. Much more common than straight men being attracted to men. Nicole, 20, Arcata: It’s common for straight girls to be sexually attracted to girls. Besides, people should be defined by their actions, not their thoughts. Feelings are feelings, and like you said, you don’t have to act on them.
If you like boys better, you shouldn’t worry. It could be an appreciation and/or jealousy of that person. Katelyn, 16, Huntington Beach: You aren’t necessarily gay or bi. There are times when I find another guy attractive, but I don’t worry about it. Why have artists been painting, sculpting and drawing the human body since forever? As far as being attracted sexually, this could just be an admiration that you can’t mentally organize. Scot, 22, San Luis Obispo: It is normal to find some people of the same sex attractive. Don’t freak out, you’re normal.Īnjanette, 16, Safford, Ariz.: There are really straight girls out there that find girls attractive, but they are neither gay nor bisexual. I even kissed some of my girlfriends just to see what it was like. I had feelings like this in high school and was scared too. Most people are curious, it’s just whether you act on it or not. Lisa, 22, Sacramento: Many teen girls go through this stage but it definitely doesn’t mean you are gay. Does feeling physically attracted to someone of the same sex necessarily mean you are gay or bisexual? I have never acted on these feelings toward girls and doubt I ever would, but they scare me and I can’t make them go away. I like boys and have dated, but I don’t have a steady boyfriend. She undresses in front of me and has no idea I get these feelings. This includes my stepsister with whom I sometimes share a room. Dear Straight Talk: I’m a girl and when I see other girls with attractive bodies nude, I sometimes feel a physical attraction.